Making Time for Play Time
For busy, always on-the-go moms, finding the time to take a shower can be difficult. So it comes as no surprise when making time for your partner gets put on the back burner, too. Between playing taxi for the kids, running errands, and getting dinner on the table by a reasonable hour (aka before it’s time to start the hour-long bedtime routine for your youngest), it’s a wonder your love life even makes the long to-do list. It’s easy to forget in the daily chaos of life that though our top priority might be our children, we’re also one-half of a couple. In a recent survey by Parenting and HLN’s Raising America, “30 percent [of parents] only get it on once or twice a month.” Looking to give your love life a boost? Here are some easy tips to spice things up.
Make an Appointment for Making Love
As unsexy as it may sound, scheduling one-on-one time with your other half, sans kids, is a surefire way to make sure sex at least gets a spot on the agenda. Make a note in your planner of the day and time, or program it into your phone and set an alarm. After all, your kids have scheduled playdates, so why shouldn’t you? To keep scheduled sex feeling spontaneous, think outside of the box... and the bedroom. Explore different rooms that you normally wouldn’t get frisky in—the kitchen, laundry room, foyer, upstairs hallway, anywhere that puts you in the mood. It’s hard for sex to feel like an appointment when it takes place in an exciting, never-been-here-before spot. Kids always around? Find a sitter and head out, even if it’s just for a couple of hours. The back row of a movie theater was made for quickies.
Send a Sext or Two
It’s often difficult to keep things sexy when you and your partner only see each other in the early mornings before kids and work take over and then later on at night over dinner, homework, and preparations for the next day. Take a moment during the day to send your lover a text or email of the more sexual nature. As Redbook notes, expressing yourselves with titillating messages keeps the spark alive even when the two of you are apart. By the time you’re reunited later that day, you’ll both be feeling hot and bothered.
Play with Toys
If you and your partner are feeling adventurous, toys are a great way to liven things up in the boudoir. Start with some fuzzy handcuffs and warming lube for a teasing appetizer before delving into battery-operated territory. No longer just for solo play, some sex toys are designed specifically for the pleasure of both partners, making them a wonderful option for added excitement. According to Adam & Eve, vibrating penis rings, or cock rings, are incredibly popular, as they are one of the few sex toys that pleasures both men and women at the same time. For an even hotter night in, go shopping for your new toys together pre-romp, allowing your imaginations (and hands) to wander as you make your way down aisle after naughty aisle.
By making sex a priority in an otherwise hectic week, your love life can go from boring to roaring. Even though you adore your kids, after trying out some of these stimulating options, you might find yourself calling that sitter more often.
